HOW A WOMAN CAN MAKE HER MAN OPEN UP TO HER
I Have heard many women complain that their men have walls, they are too secretive. Their men don't involve them in their life, they don't talk. Here are simple ways for a woman to make her man open up to her:
- "Ask him the right questions"
- "Don't push it"
- "Keep his secrets"
- "Open up to him"
- "Don't jump into conclusions"
- "Just keep quiet"
- "Joke a lot"
- "Go out more"
- "Have more intimacy, not sex"
- "Pray more"
- "Eat with him more"
- "Don't look at him different"
- "Don't force your advice"
- "Do activities together"
- "Don't attack his friends"
- "Give him peace"
- "Don't accuse him of not opening up to you"
Far too many women don't show interest in their man. There are some things your man will never tell you until you ask. Learn to ask the right questions 'Are you Ok?', 'How is the project going on?'
If you ask him how he is, or about an issue and he is not keen on talking, don't force him. Forcing him will make him withdraw. Back down, he will come around now that he knows you are interested.
Don't ever share his personal stuff with another. He needs to know he can trust you.
A man takes his cue from his woman. Men love to be the hero. If you open up to him, confide in him, ask him for help and he isthere for you and feels needed and appreciated; he will eventually open up too.
When he opens up, don't conclude too quickly. Many men keep off telling their woman sensitive stuff because she has demonstrated she can't handle it. She gets worked up, emotional or irrational.
Often women love to talk, this interrupts the man when he is about to talk. Sometimes a man just wants to be listened to. You don't even have to give him advice, just listen.
Make him laugh, don't be too serious, be cheeky and funny. This will make him relax. Once he has relaxed, he will open up about the deep matters.
Go for dates together more. Proper dates, to calm settings, not noisy clubs. If he will not take you out then you take him out. Thosememorable moments will make any hardened heart open up.
Graduate from just the mere act of sex, have intimacy. After you have made love with your husband and he is cooling down, stroke his skin, praise how good the pleasure he gave you was. That is a man'smost vulnerable moment, he feels closest to you. As you cuddle in intimacy, he will open up.
Pray, especially with him. Ask him if there is anything he wants you to pray for. Prayer has a way of softening hearts.
Great conversations happen over food.
Don't judge him or attack him based on what he struggles to share with you. If you do so, chances are, in future he will opt not to share with you.
Don't dictate to him what to do. Make suggestions. Don't treat him like a small boy, journey with him as a King towards finding a solution.
Be there. Do stuff with him. The more you are next to him, the more he will be inclined to talk.
Instead, show that you are supportive of his social life. Rise above his friends, be the bigger person. Show him that you are hisclosest ally, his best friend; his friends come after you.
Don't nag, quarrel or make his time with you uncomfortable and judgement time. Men avoid complicatedenvironments. Be careful about the tone of your voice and your facial expression, lest you chase him away.
The more you complain how frustrated you are he doesn't open up to you, the more he will shuts you out. My Prayer is that as you read this, God will mend & heal every broken relationship.