How Has Modern Day Technology Changed The Way I Communicate With Others
Communication - A bridge between two hearts. Beginning with the most vital thing i. e an actual definition of communication. Communication means exchange of facts, ideas, feelings etc. with one another in order to make them understand your point of view. To me communication means social media but on other hand to my grandparents it means sitting with the family and exchanging thoughts. This majorly shows a wide generation gap. Honestly Saying, my eyes open at my phone screen with a good morning message and ends with a good night message and the whole day in-between passes with the tension of updates, profile pictures, selfies, chatting and more.
Few months back it was the time when I got my personal mobile phone from my parents as I score good in exams. I was sitting with my granny and was busy in my phone as usually, she was trying to start a conversation with me but I was totally engulfed in my own social media world, at that time. I was chatting with my best friend as she was upset from me, I only tried to convince her so that she can talk to me again and at the same time my granny got irritated from me and finally she broke the silence and with an expression of irritation words expelled from her mouth "What you do in this mobile phone twenty four seven" and I frustratedly replied, 'What is your problem? I don't want to talk to you at this moment. Please leave me alone for some time and her face colour faded away and she left the room. The very next day I noticed that she was not talking with me properly. I asked her the reason behind the strange behaviour. She exclaimed with pain that she lost her best friend, I asked her who? And she said you. She continued by saying before you got your phone you were my best friend-sharing each and every thing, happy and painful moments but now you don't even give a look at me. I could see that grief in her eyes and also remembering the way i spoke to her yesterday just because to only convince a friend. I totally broke her heart. I felt sorry to her, and then she sat near me and told me that no doubt phone is a useful thing but you are losing your actual happiness. In our time we though did not have these gadgets but we enjoyed our nature, our childhood, happiness in small things but you are trying to find your happiness in wrong side saying so she went away. That day I gave brief thought at her words and realised that she was correct. From that day I reduced my phone use to a large extent.
The whole day went and my parents came. I tried to communicate with them but for the very first time. I noticed that they are also too much busy in their life. I slept that night with a disappointment in my heart so many times I tried to share my feelings, my ideas with them but neither they had time nor they showed any interest. This made an aggression in my mind against my parents that I am no more a priority for them. This made a change in my behaviour towards everyone. I started talking rudely to others. This made a gap between me and my closed ones and an arrogant girl type image got set in everyone's mind. I started avoiding people and a thought instantly struck in my mind that how a single moment of understanding is sometime so poisonous that is makes us forget within a minute the hundred lovable moments spent together. Finally a sudden change in my behaviour noticed by someone and she was no other but my grandmother, she asked me what is wrong with me. I hugged her and started crying and explained to her the problem. She wiped my tears and pacified me by saying that I will talk to your parents arrived at home and my granny explained my problem to them. She elaborated each and every single thing. This made a huge impact on my parent's mind and they changed their behaviour towards me.
They started making time for me and tried to give their best but some marks are left in life, as sitting alone sometimes today also make me remind that awful time where I started feeling that I have no one with me who take really interest to my views. but they are my parents I am not supposed to blame them at any cost. and now they really realised that they have to give some space to me in their life. With such a incident it made me realise that excess of anything is not good. This is also applicable on technology blessing such as mobile phones. No doubt it connects our heart with people living thousand mile away but sometimes it also weakens our bond with people living near to us, our closer ones.
Nowadays each and every work is related to internet or mobile phone, these are basic necessities of life. As my parents also do their most of the work at their mobile phone, all time calls and important messages. The sound of notifications is more than the sound of anything else. When I was using my mobile phone all the time I really did not noticed all these things but since I started ignoring my mobile phone as per my granny’s guidelines i started felling that what real present is. I agree that I misunderstood my parents but actually they were that much busy in their own work that totally make me feels that am I not important to them,which results to failure in my life for sometimes also it changed the way I talk to others. Also there are many more people in all over the world who are facing this problem as I faced, but the only solution I want to suggest to everyone that is to less use technologic gadgets and start living in real world and try to do the real communication with your close ones, it will create more sweetness to your relationships. With my incident I totally noticed the change in myself, even I don’t have those good friends also but I am still trying to improve my way to communicate with others.
