Wasting Time And Scare Of Death In "Tuesdays With Morrie"
Your Only Limit Is You
“Tuesdays with Morrie” is a movie about how people waste their time by being scare of death, of what would happen tomorrow, of not being perfect or not doing what they really want to do instead of living a fully life and be happy with what they have. Morrie was a teacher who loved to dance until he got a rare disease that, eventually, will kill him somehow. In the other side we have Mitch, Morrie’s student, that as soon as he graduated from college he promised Morrie they will keep in touch, but Mitch never did until he saw Morrie on TV many years later. Mitch contacted Morrie and since that day they became friends, or rather they were, a family.
Mitch used to be a perfectionist man. He graduated from sports columnist and got a good job offer when he graduated. He also had a beautiful girlfriend, Janine, who got mad with Mitch most of the time because she felt Mitch distant the most of the time since Mitch was always working and not paying attention to her. Eventually they broke up but, in that time, he cared more about his job than her. When Mitch contacted Morrie, he started learning so many things about live, such as, love, happiness, and faith. Morrie’s wisdom helped Mitch to see life in a different way and Mitch started living his life as he wanted to live it: happy.
“The most important thing in life is to learn how to give out love, and to let it come in.” Morrie told to Mitch. Morrie told him the story of the dead of his mother. He explained how hard was for a little child to comprehend a death, specially when is about the child’s mom. Morrie did not have his father as his supporter because his father was with a poker face, showing not feelings at all, until his dad married a woman named Eva and she gave him all the love he needed. Eva sang to him at nights, give him a kiss and a hug, and worried about him. Morrie was aware that Eva was not his mom but in that moment, due to circumstances, he learned that people had to learn how to give love and also how to be loved. People live their life without wondering how many people they have rejected because they were angry or afraid. People feel anger because they wish they were another person, in this case, Morrie wanted Eva to be his real mom. They also feel afraid to love so much and that the ones they love will go away in any moment so they will suffer. Morrie teach people that they have to let love come in and come out, in the way people can feel loved thus be happy.
“Death ends a life, not a relationship.” Morrie answered in response of Mitch’s suffering about Morrie’s death. Mitch saw Mitch as family so he broke down in tears because he didn’t want Morrie to die and Morrie explained that life is over whenever death comes but it is no the end of a relationship. Life has only one limit: death, but love have no limits. The love people share during their life is the love that is going to last forever, even when the people is death. People cannot see love but they can feel it and if people feel love it means that it can pass the limits of death staying in people’s heart their whole life. This means that if people learn how to feel the love of the one they love by listening them even when they are not around, then death is not more a limit of love either of life.
“Once you learn how to die, you learn how to live.” Morrie claimed that the point of life is to learn how to die in order to life a fully life. People often worry about how they are going to die or to worry insignificant things as having the “dream job,” “dream house,” and “dream life.” Morrie told him the story about his father’s dead. It happened one day that his father was getting robbed and his father was so scared of something might happen to him that he through his wallet and started running but his fear of death was bigger enough to kill him, literally. The police officer called Morrie and told him to go to the morgue so he can recognize his father’s body. Morrie has explained to Mitch that he always wondered what was so scary to his father – of course he never found it out. But Morrie learned that maybe his father would have never died if he wasn’t afraid of death because his father ran away because he was running away from death but he couldn’t. Morrie’s disease helped him to learn how to live life even when he was actually dying and that’s why he was always trying to learn how he can fully live life and be happy as he could be.
Morrie’s father never showed any feelings. When his mother died he could notice it even more because now his father was always outside reading the newspaper or just being cold with him. Morrie did not even cry when his father died because he felt so angry for what he did to him but it wasn't after his death that he realized he had to be in peace with his father but now was too late. This is why he said “Learn to forgive yourself and to forgive others.” People live their life with negatives feelings of resentment and bad blood that people not even realize how life can make people change their mind once they are already gone forever. First people most forgive themselves so they can recognize what they have done wrong and then forgive the others so he can recognize what others have done wrong in order to know what he must forgive about them. Morrie taught people how to forgive in order to feel peace with themselves so people don’t regret anything in life that they wish they could to turn back time to the good all days.
So many people in life are so frustrated in getting something they cannot reach. For example, how many people dream about having their own company as soon as they graduate but they have no money, no experience, no nothing. People who want everything but don’t want to do anything about it. Morrie said “Accept what you are able to do and what you are not able to do.” If people knew that in order to success first people must recognize what are they good at and bad for. Once people handle this then they can reach their dream, even to open their own company because they will know what they are required to have in order to do it. When people find themselves totally lost because they do not accept who they really are, with their strengths and weaknesses, Morrie said, “So many people walk around with a meaningless life. They seem half-asleep, even when they’re busy doing things they think are important. This is because they’re chasing the wrong things. The way you get meaning into your life is to devote yourself to loving others, devote yourself to your community around you, and devote yourself to creating something that gives you purpose and meaning.” Mitch felt like this before he got in touch with Morrie because Mitch’s life was all about his work and he couldn’t see what he was loosing his girlfriend until she broke up wit him. Mitch used to have his life “planned,” he had the perfect job with the perfect people, he had the best interviews with the best athletes, in other words, something unexpected wasn’t his thing. The only thing he didn’t noticed was that the only thing he hasn’t planned was his own life and that’s why everything fall apart when he talked to Morrie and noticed everything he had to change in his life in order to live a fully live being happy with what he has.
“Tuesdays with Morrie” shows people how to life their life. It shows how a person can have everything they wanted: career, job, and money (like Mitch) but they feel emptiness inside and start to fulfill their soul with things that are not real like money and things. Then we have Morrie, an old man with a disease that is killing him but, for the things he has fulfilled his life with: friends, enjoyed what he did, and make the right decisions, he could die in peace with himself and with everyone he knew. This movie will help everyone who feels lost or feels like they have it all because we never have to have anything for granted.
