A Letter To My Future Child
Dear future child of mine, I think about you all the time and I wonder what your life will look like. I realise you will make your own choices, but my goal for is that God would be the deciding factor in all the areas of your life. I pray for you all the time. I hope that you would grow up strong and healthy, but most of all I pray that you would grow up and not miss one day in the service of the King. I hope that that you would learn early on to trust in Jesus and follow him all the days of your life. You are so loved and adored. In high school I struggled with comparing myself to other people. I hope that you never have to deal with the desperate feeling of not measuring up to the standards others set for you, but most likely you have already began to experience this in your own life. I wish that I head learned that comparison is the thief of joy before I did because that statement changed my life.
One of the detrimental things I did in my walk with Christ is comparing mine to that of others. You are just where God has you for a reason don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. Jesus said that you are fearfully and wonderfully made in his image, and when you chose to believe that promise you can experience satisfaction in Jesus. Let god define you and you will begin to experience unsurpassable God given joy. Learning to be secure in who you are as a child of God is one of the most freeing thing ever. As you learn to live your life free of comparison; you can learn to love and serve people well. You first have to love yourself for who you are before loving others the way God has called us to. I want you to always know that you are just who Jesus made you to be.
Learn to rest in the fact that God has good plans for your life. Even though those plans might not be the same as other peoples that doesn’t mean that they aren’t just as important. God only made one of you so it would be a shame to try to be anyone else. Another thing that I have learned is there is no need to worry or be afraid. Worry is the absence of trust in God and his promises. God said that he has good plans for you; you just need to trust he will do what he says he will. Perfect love cast out all fear, and Jesus loves and cares for all of our worries. I worry about the future, but Jesus knows and holds my future and he holds yours. When you focus on Jesus the author and perfecter of your faith the worries of this life fade. The one who holds the whole world in his hands can deal with our worries. Jesus can and will cast out all fear in your life when you choose to trust in him. Worrying can not and will not make your life any better just more stressful.
You should always remember your self-worth; know that you are incredibly loved by a God who knit you together and knows the hairs on your head. You are special, set apart, and worthy of love. You were fearfully and wonderfully made and anyone who tells you otherwise is lying. You have value in christ that is far greater than diamonds or pearls. He loves you fiercely and fights for you day and night. The god who makes the world turn is fighting for you and working to make your life fall into place, and that should make you feel special and one of a kind. He made you unique and perfectly flawed. He knows your name and he cares for you. He loved you even before I even before I had the chance to love you. The creator of the universe made you special and for a purpose he thinks you are beautiful and he has called you a daughter and a heir. In Him you lack nothing, and to him you are everything You were made by His hands, dreamed up by the heart of God, and loved from day one. Don’t ever let anyone convince you that you aren’t enough.
As a woman you always have to guard your heart. Stay away from boys that are known for being bad influences or breaking girls hearts. Don’t ever compromise your values for any boy because a boy who truly values you doesn’t ask you to. I don’t want you to do something you regret in order to gain a boys love and affection. Nothing is worth compromising your beliefs. You are allowed to say no. Don’t ever think that you aren’t enough without a boy. With a few exceptions take what boys say with a grain of salt. Most of what they say is irrelevant and a lot of the time it isn’t even true. Let your dad be the guiding example of a biblical man, but I think that another example of a man is a good idea. Look at the way your christian guy friends live their lives and find a boy that treats you like that. Learn to seek out godly friendships to help guide you and show you what it looks like to pursue a girl.
A man who follows God with everything should pursue you not the other way around. Karen Kingsbury said, ”When a man pursues you he better do it like a dying man looking for water in a desert. ” It is my hope for you that even after you get married that your husband will pursue you like it is day one. In high-school there were too many boys and not enough men. A real man will respect you and your values. The right man will cherish you and treat you like a princess. He will let you know your beauty and worth. He will love you for who you are. The right man knows his value as a child of the king, and he knows that you are nothing less than perfect in the sight of the Lord. It might take a few tries to find the right one. If a boy can’t handle your crazy then he isn’t right for you.
Find someone who's crazy matches yours. As a child I had wonderful parents: I wouldn’t change my childhood for anything. I adore my parents, honestly my mom deserves a medal. She is my best friend and she means the world to me. My dad is a shining example of the christian life and biblical manhood. He treats me and my sisters like princesses and he is the most loving dad I could ask for. My parents are godly people who put me and my sisters above themselves. I was truly blessed to grow up in the home that I did. As a child I never wanted for anything physically or emotionally. I hope I gave you the same childhood I had. I hope I raised you to be proud of your faith and your family. I hope that you have learned to fight for what you believe in. I hope that you will stand up for your siblings and those who can’t stand up for themselves. I love you so much. Remember to love Jesus with everything and to love others well.
