Marriage And Its Importance In Muslim World
This world is so vast. Here lies different species. Human beings are also species. And the life goes on by reproduction. Thus reproduction is necessity for the continuation of life. And in many cases marriage is the lawful way to reproduce. What is marriage? Well, it is legally or formally recognized union of two people as partners in a personal relationship. Marriage is obligatory for two people to be recognized as partners legally. So today we are about to discuss about terminologies and their impact on our lives. Specifically on millennials. Are you ambiguous of this term Millennials? Basically a millennial is a person reaching young adulthood in the early 21st century. Adulthood is the age when a person gets to deal with so many sporadic thoughts. That person needs a light to follow a right path else he would get astray. Quran is the best source for wisdom for any person. It’s a proper guideline for its follower. In a Muslim world, marriage is a good deed and Allah declared it compulsory for two souls to be united. With the advancement of media and technology, the people who are in adult age tend to think of life in different ways. According to them, valuable things come from money and great asset. They prefer living alone over getting married or engaged because they think it is good for them to escape responsibilities. When we talk about women in general, nowadays they are becoming more feminist and with that, they like to work with men in office jobs and other work in the name of equality. Islam doesn’t allow women to unveil themselves but due to the influence of the western world people are having more better education and rights now than before yet they redundantly believe that marriage is not a good cause to live a better life for the responsibility will be more which they can not handle. Holy Quran has many verses and sayings of Allah by which a man can get enlightened with wisdom. Recently many millennials have shown scepticism towards marriage because of many possible reasons as like they may see their parents got divorced and else and that is why they are bewildered but all of their questions can be answered if they read Quran and get themselves acknowledged. Millennials need to reconsider this concept for they have vowed to not to marry but that could be very fatal eventually. For the availability of life comes with the process of reproduction and marriage is that bound which provides the legal right for a couple to reproduce and pursue the generation. Furthermore, some millennials often tend to settle themselves first then marry. They are keen to marry someone of their choice which was clearly not followed by baby boomers (previous generation) who marry someone, get divorced and then re-marry and that was the loop for most of them. A recent study showed that millennials have a higher degree of self-sufficiency. Time is the best teacher. It changes everything.
Allah Almighty has created man and woman and bound them to be together so that they can become parents and live their lives in comfort and peace and follow the path of Allah by abiding by His commandments. Quran has a saying: “And among His signs is this that He created for you mates from among yourselves, that you may dwell in tranquillity with them, and He has put love and mercy between your hearts. Undoubtedly in these are signs for those who reflect.” Allah has put affection and mercy within you. Marriage is half faith. It is obligatory for a man to follow the path that Allah told us to. Marriage is half religion for Muslims. Marriage is a beautiful thing to opt. Allah has fiercely said that the one who is able to support offspring and a wife yet he doesn’t marry then that person is not from one of us. Allah commands His people to follow three tasks foremostly and never abstain from doing these.
It is mandatory for you to offer prayer on time is a moral duty to attend and offer funeral prayer when the deceased body is present. Marry the woman and do not delay in this task once you find a match.
Marriage makes an incomplete man complete. It is also a Sunnah of our great Holy Prophet PBUH. House that is built through marriage is most beloved by Almighty Allah. Marriage is one of the greatest sources to get tranquillity, peace and security. It is said that marriage doesn’t only combine two people but also two families. With it, you can witness happiness and experience love. Prophet Mohammad (SAW) stated that: “Men and women are twin halves of each other”. This Hadith depicts that men and women belong to a single unit of which they both are parts as subunits. Men and women are interdependent. By doing marriage, you are following the Sunnah of Prophet Hood PBUH and that is very much pleasing to Almighty Allah. Marriage provides assurance of physical and spiritual chastity. And provides peace to the individual. It also prevents the two souls from the downfall and indulging into transgressions and traps of Satan. Through marriage, two souls seek affection and mercy. It is a source for paradise. A righteous wife is the better provision of this world. The Prophet (PBUH) said: “This world is but the provision, and there is no provision in this world better than a righteous wife.” Marriage increases sustenance, love, respect, caring, selflessness and forgiving factors between husband and wife.
Marriage linguistically means to unite two souls and bind them into a legal source. A woman is a great source of advisor for a man. If she is educated then she will be able to make her offspring a respectful citizen and look after her family. And if she trusts her husband and fulfils his rights then she will enter into paradise. To be more precise, the greatest benefit and outcome of the marriage is the prevention of sinful life and the endurance of sexual desire through lawful means.
Marriage has been enforced into human culture and tradition for a long time now. Nearly every religion and every state inculcate marriage a source of living. But recently marriages had to deal a great setback due to challenges like gay rights enforcement. People opted for homo couples where continuity of generation is not possible. Thus mainly in developed countries, marriages are facing a backlash. There are many advantages that come from marriages like financial support, security, prevention from sins etc. Marriage also gives a child two parents which in turns assist a child in making him a balanced human being and a happy adult. Marriages help to provide a good sex life for partners. Partners will be able to know each other to the full extent and develop a good bond that lasts forever. Love transcends. By seeing parents, a child can learn so much and become a better version of himself. Marriages bring luck often in one’s life. Abraham Lincoln has beautifully quoted that “Marriage is neither heaven nor hell, it is simply purgatory”.
Maintaining a marriage or civil partnership demands commitment and hard work on the part of both parties. I believe that many people marry on the basis of romantic love, which does not last. A solid basis of shared values and interests is important to sustain a long-term relationship. In the past, many couples stayed in unhappy marriages for economic reasons. Perhaps some still feel the need to do so. Basically, everything comes with understanding. It is not an easy task. It is hard work and with it, great responsibility comes in your way. Marriages turn unsuccessful mainly due to inconsistency and misunderstanding. Partners should stop rotting over an argument over an over again. And look for the remedy. Marriage itself is a beautiful thing it is a bonding between two families to celebrate their achievements, happiness and sorrowfulness. Survival in old age is difficult without partner and family. Marriage has been a part of human culture for thousands of years. Marriage is the beginning of the new term. It is a commitment between two souls that results in selflessness on both sides. When a man and a woman marry the two becomes one. You can have a friend for a lifetime with you can share your thoughts and together you both can live your life in fulfil zeal and zest. You work for your partner’s felicity and by the time you get offspring, you will have a proper purpose for living. Life is not a bed of roses. Roses can have thorns. Partner shares half of your pain thus bringing you comfort. Marriages are designed for purity. Marriage is of great significance. It creates a lasting effect on the human soul. You can’t deny love. Marriages can be arranged or love. In the Muslim world, it is considered a taboo for doing love marriage or court marriage. Parents force their offspring especially a girl to marry a man of their choice even there is a hadith in Quran that says “You mustn’t marry your daughter to someone without her consent”. But parents feel it is a big task done (marrying daughter). Also, the dowry system is for real in middle eastern countries. Parents want high dowry for their son to them big dowry is a source of great reputation in society. To add more, the dowry system is forbidden in Islam. Marriage is most people’s greatest source of happiness. Thus it is a blessing too. Partners are supposed to live happily, support each other in a great bond of friendship and love. Attach with each other physically, emotionally and spiritually. God said: “ It is not good for man to be alone.”. Marriage is a great source by which one can repent from sinful living. Without marriage, out if sexual frustration, often young adult tend to move toward sinful deeds and by doing so that person becomes a victim of temptation. It is right to refer Mufti Ismail Menk’s quote here, it says: “Making marriage easy for your children is an act of worship whilst making it difficult for them is a sin that promotes another sin”. Thus it is the moral duty of the parent to make their children married to someone with their consent. And it is mandatory for every person to stick to the right path according to the commandment of Allah. When a man urges to marry a woman then he should develop faith within God. It is also better to be in a respectful polygamous marriage than in an intolerable monogamous marriage. A person is always in need to be loved and to have companionship. He/she will get that from a marriage. It is only then that person finds a reason to live not for himself but for others too. Marriage inculcates the feelings of loyalty, responsibility and selflessness. When a person owns a family he will then understand the true meaning of life. The pain of his wife is the pain of him. The joys and cries of his children are the same for him. He always looks to work for the betterment of his family. Marriage is such a beautiful thing, it offers many blessings. Being an adult it is easy to lose the path of righteousness, It is factual that sins seem delightful thus adults indulge in crimes like rapes, sexual assaults, sexual harassment and acts like that. Thus marriage is the easy way to escape these sort of affections that imprint bad effect on not only the credibility of one’s personality but also one’s afterlife for he is answerable to God for everything that he has done. These crimes are inhumane acts. Thus it is recommended that parent should marry their offspring when they are wise even to understand the happenings of life. So with this quote, I’d like to conclude.
“By all means, marry. If you get a good wife, you’ll become happy; if you get a bad one, you’ll become a philosopher”.
