Negative Effects Of Verbal Abuse Of Women
While all abuse is awful, verbal abuse is far worse on a woman long-term than a woman who is physically abused. Verbal abuse consists of one being called names and being described as which they aren’t. Physical abuse is the intention to cause physical harm to another who is seen as below them in worth. Each consists of harm done to another with or without it being their fault. Verbal abuse is not something as easy to see as a broken arm, but it weighs on the functions of the brain. Whether it is present in a romantic relationship or a parent-child relationship both types of abuse can be very harmful. Verbal abuse or violence toward a daughter from a father can cause the daughter to develop problems that will hinder her future. Within these relationships, the abuser might even start to deny the resources that they need. Verbal violence can happen to anyone, any race or religion. Victims of verbal violence could struggle with raising children or caring for others.
Self-esteem is dramatically lowered following a case of verbal abuse. They begin to show signs of avoidance of family and friends, mainly because they are told they can’t. The feeling that they are stuck and can’t withdraw is very present. The victim begins to worry about pleasing the abuser and not contributing to the start of any more harm because of their actions. Having to always deal with the mental strain because of their abuser partner, can weigh down on her, causing the development of problems like depression, anxiety, and even suicidal thoughts and actions.
After one goes through a verbal abuse situation, they aren’t the same. Some get help, others don’t. The effects of getting help could be worse than not getting help. Sometimes the abuser will uncover her receiving help and be the cause of worse abuse. The long-term effects of verbal abuse could follow one to their grave. The effects of verbal abuse take a long time to heal. Some begin to develop Learned Helplessness. This is where verbal abuse victims feel it is their fault they’re being abused and nothing can be done to fix it. Verbal abuse can change the structure of a woman’s brain. The brain changes to survival mode, to bear with the stress of the environment. Having that voice in their heads telling them that those words are true; that they are worthless, flawed, a waste of space, time, and money. They begin to find it hard to express feelings and thoughts and burden themselves because they believe it is their fault. This could determine the outcome of one's life and how they live.
Physical abuse does not affect the mental and physical state of the body much as verbal abuse. Physical marks like bruises, scratches, broken bones and welts can heal over time. It is more common for a man to be the abuser and the woman to be the victim. Men believe women are being promiscuous and are seeking attention from other men. Physical abuse can also be sexual abuse, where a woman is threatened in a way that could harm her sexually. Sexual abuse has worse long-term effects than physical abuse because the effects can harm the women internally causing her struggle with reproduction. Some fight back, if they do the effects could progress to more damaging problems. Some accept the abuse and hide the happenings from others. She can also struggle with choosing the right non-abusive partner in the future because they were abused at a young age and they tend to have an attraction towards those types of people. Verbal abuse can also be fueled by drugs and alcohol. When the abuser is using these substances verbal abuse can start to turn into physical abuse.
When an abuser verbally threatens the victim’s children claiming they will harm them if they don’t do what they’re told; this can result from jealousy and denial. Some even end in the murder of the victim and their children. The abusive partner may begin to deny what they’re doing is wrong; and state that the victim deserves this treatment. Men will even threaten the lives of women by holding a gun to their head, to receive what they want. If the man doesn’t receive what was threatened, the abuse could turn physical. They can start with a love relationship then end with a verbal abuse relationship that they just can’t seem to escape. This is called a psychological trap; women believe they are in love with the abuser and that the abuser is in love with them, but the abuser just wanted to dominate the victim.
In conclusion, women are not taught to just withdraw, they are taught to stay and work out the problems within because they don't know the outcome if they don't and it could cost them everything. While all abuse is bad, verbal abuse is worse than physical abuse. Verbal abuse sticks with one longer than physical abuse. Verbal abuse can cause more problems than physical abuse. As an outsider, one may think that she is stupid for not leaving, but many women don’t have any shelter or place of safety or have the resources withdrawn. They choose to stay because living this life would be easier than living one where they have nothing.
