Making a Bucket List to Restart a Marriage Life

Many of us fight at the beginning of our family gap. Of course we are very confused and we tend to live in our own world. Or maybe we can move to a new house that is quiet and isolated from those who look after us. This behavior is understandable. We hurt this 'new norm' is a fight. However, after some time, some of us are sick of living in this isolated way. This can take a long time, but you may find that sitting and jumping does not change or carry anything in your marriage. Therefore, you promise to come out again and enjoy life.

One way to try this is to make a bucket list. They will say that they will use this extra time in their hands and live their lives. And to be honest, this new insight can be fun. You might feel like a flower that eventually jumps out of the ground after a long dry season. However, you might find that not all of your friends and family understand this. And because your attention might ask yourself is this a good idea.

One can express such fears: 'Honestly, I have maintained my life for the past six months, while my husband tried to' find himself 'and' have his own space. 'In the first few weeks I only had to wait for a call and then try to fix it and meet me regularly or talk to me, sometimes he agreed with it, but then he moved. Someone is a man who enjoys life and is most alive, but as long as farewell, I was pressed at the border, so I went in. And frankly, I have to say that this is the most fun I have ever had, to be honest, it was the right time and I was very interesting and so on. and maybe try new things. The problem is that some of my friends say this is a bad idea. They say making my bucket list is like giving up my marriage. Humans might think I'm crazy.

I assume it depends on the bucket list. Unless you engage with other people or behave destructively, and you realize that you are still involved in your marriage during your waiting period, I don't see the damage. I understand exactly how you feel, because I also get tired so I don't take care of my life while separating. I lived this way for a long time and wanted to save my marriage. But even I am tired of feeling so lonely and depressed.

I did not make my own bucket. But I swear to go out and live my life again. My activities are not as interesting as jumping with a parachute. I participated in several courses on topics that always interest me. I take yoga and pilates. I try meditation. I do arts and crafts that I can give to those in need. I visit friends who need me. And yes, I have fun. And even though I have moved with friends, I am very careful because it is clear that I will not meet again. I am still in touch with my husband. I'm just not waiting for him.

To be honest, this change did benefit my marriage because I believed that my husband had forced me to look at me differently (and the situation). It became clear that I no longer dispersed and waited for his call. I never suggested that I find or find someone else. I doubt that the thought process went there, but it was clear that I was no longer willing to be undefined. I never did not respect him. And it's always clear that when I have my way, we will get married and be happy. But I will not end my life because of a strange mood.

I think what really matters - whether you make a list or not - is to start your life. You decide not to interrupt what you like, or delay what is important to you just because your marriage looks a little different. Honestly, we are all more than our marriage. There are other aspects of our lives that we can pay attention to. That does not mean that we do not want our marriage. But that means we want ourselves. And there's nothing wrong with that.